The vast majority of my dreams I never remember, but last week one did float around my mental recesses popping in and out of my thoughts at the most inappropriate moments.
Dearest Hubby say one of those moments and asked what I was thinking about, I told him.
I dreamt years in the future of SD coming to visit, she was now an adult and brought with her her beau, a rather dashing young man who kindly left his white steed outside (thank god, wouldn’t have a litter tray big enough, but then again it is a dream!)
Hubs was asked by Prince Charming for SDs hand – all keeping to tradition. I handed hubby a note saying ‘next will be the request to pay for said marriage (said like Jack Sparrow!). They will not be leaving here with a cheque. We have not seen SD for years and we should not have to pay for the privilege!’
I know, I’m cringing at that, the claws were out and there was a hint of cat like hissing and spitting is in the air!
As dreams do, it then jumped to a week before the wedding and Hubs and I were involved in the preparations at SDs house. Her Grandma was telling us in no uncertain terms to get out and don’t bother coming to the wedding. I then turned to SD and said your Grandma is paying for the wedding have a nice life and walked out.
If you can work out what my overactive imagination is getting up to when Im sleeping, let me know cause I don’t!
Back to reality!
First thing out of hubs mouth –‘Don’t use money as a weapon’
Not what I was expecting!
Then I thought about what I have used as a weapon, yes I have used money as a weapon. When SDs behaviour was at it’s worst she lost pocket money. Then I started thinking about the big picture.
Suzie Orman says:
“Never use money as a weapon or a shield. Money itself has no power; our actions, attitudes, and decisions give it influence.”
That observation could be made against practically any object or situation –
????? itself has no power; our actions, attitudes, and decisions give it influence.
Putting that in the context of a stepfamily. What weapons do you carry in your arsenal?
Is your arsenal full of positive actions, attitudes and decisions?
Remember: Do not let your weapons backfire on you!
BAS
If any of my fellow blogger would like to pick this topic up I would be most greatful. Still trying to get my head around the dream let alone the consequences of using money as a weapon within the stepfamily dynamic.
