Dearest Hubby say one of those moments and asked what I was thinking about, I told him.
I dreamt years in the future of SD coming to visit, she was now an adult and brought with her her beau, a rather dashing young man who kindly left his white steed outside (thank god, wouldn’t have a litter tray big enough, but then again it is a dream!)
Hubs was asked by Prince Charming for SDs hand – all keeping to tradition. I handed hubby a note saying ‘next will be the request to pay for said marriage (said like Jack Sparrow!). They will not be leaving here with a cheque. We have not seen SD for years and we should not have to pay for the privilege!’
I know, I’m cringing at that, the claws were out and there was a hint of cat like hissing and spitting is in the air!
As dreams do, it then jumped to a week before the wedding and Hubs and I were involved in the preparations at SDs house. Her Grandma was telling us in no uncertain terms to get out and don’t bother coming to the wedding. I then turned to SD and said your Grandma is paying for the wedding have a nice life and walked out.
If you can work out what my overactive imagination is getting up to when Im sleeping, let me know cause I don’t!
Back to reality!
First thing out of hubs mouth –‘Don’t use money as a weapon’
Not what I was expecting!
Then I thought about what I have used as a weapon, yes I have used money as a weapon. When SDs behaviour was at it’s worst she lost pocket money. Then I started thinking about the big picture.
Suzie Orman says:
“Never use money as a weapon or a shield. Money itself has no power; our actions, attitudes, and decisions give it influence.”
That observation could be made against practically any object or situation –
????? itself has no power; our actions, attitudes, and decisions give it influence.
Putting that in the context of a stepfamily. What weapons do you carry in your arsenal?
Is your arsenal full of positive actions, attitudes and decisions?
Remember: Do not let your weapons backfire on you!
If any of my fellow blogger would like to pick this topic up I would be most greatful. Still trying to get my head around the dream let alone the consequences of using money as a weapon within the stepfamily dynamic.